Inside This November Newsletter:

  • Macy and Muzetta receive the best news… they’re getting brothers!
  • Meet Rashia: From foster care, to the goal of becoming a judge, this young woman is going places~
  • How the Holiday season may affect foster children: A note from Mountain Circle’s Executive Director, Dr. Shauna Rossington


From our Mountain Circle Reno, Nevada Foster Care Office:

Add some chairs to the Thanksgiving table, this family is growing!

Sisters Macy and Muzetta (pictured below) are about to receive the best news… the adoption is almost complete for their two new little brothers!

Mountain Circle Resource Foster Family

The girls’ parents, Jessica and Jerry, always knew that their home had enough love for more children. On September 22nd, they were so excited to welcome home little David, and his brother Jaeden. The boys’ adoptions will be completed soon, and in the meantime, they have enjoyed lots of new family adventures.


Mountain Circle foster family

First up, they traveled to San Francisco and explored the aquarium, the boats, and the beautiful ocean. They also got to attend their first Giant’s baseball game.


Mountain Circle Foster Family

Next, they went to the Hot Air Balloon Races, and then fishing with their new dad.

Mountain Circle Foster Family


This family is all about adventure, fun, and most importantly, LOVE!!  

Welcome to your forever home, David and Jaeden!

If you have room in your heart, and are ready to change a young life for the better, give us a call for a free orientation on how to become a Resource (Foster/Adoptive) Parent!


From our Mountain Circle Lassen County (Susanville), California foster care and adoption office:

Mountain Circle foster care teenDid you know that less than 3% of foster kids will earn a college degree? At Mountain Circle, we are on a mission to change that statistic- one young person at a time. Our Transitional Housing Program (THP) currently works with 13 foster youth who will soon be ‘aging out’ of the system. These young people receive ongoing life-skills support (like how to open a checking account and balance a budget), and even employment training at the Nu-2-U Store. Our goal is for THP Youth to live as independently as possible, while still receiving 24/7 support from their Mountain Circle Social Worker (meet: Curtis).  One of our newest THP participants, Rashia, has become even more involved with Mountain Circle, by joining our team in the Lassen County Susanville office!  This young woman is going places, but you won’t believe where she started.

Rashia went into foster care at age two…


From Mountain Circle’s Executive Director, Dr. Shauna Rossington: 

Dr. Shauna RossingtonDear Foster Parents, Employees, and our loyal MCFS Stakeholders:

As the Holidays approach and our daily lives and schedules seem to get a tad busier, I wanted to take a quiet moment and highlight what the up and coming traditions mean or do not mean for our most precious foster children and youth.

Dr. John DeGarmo, a well-known advocate, author, and foster parent himself wrote a sensitive and all-inclusive article about the lack of experiences, traditions, and the guilt these children may feel.  As an organization, MCFS sees many placement disruptions during the Holidays.  The dynamics, which Dr. DeGarmo discussed, are the underlying reasons foster parents experience resistance and not acceptance during the Holidays.  Please take the two minutes to read this informative article and let us have a holiday season which is disruption-free this year!  Let us extend our sensitivity, love, and understanding and demonstrate, not through just gift giving, the true meaning of the Holidays.

Dr. DeGarmo writes:

The stockings are hung, by the chimney with care, in hopes that…In hopes of what? For many children who have been placed into the foster care system, they have come from homes where there was no Christmas, there was no hope. They have come from families that did not celebrate a holiday. They have come from environments where there were no presents, no tree. They have come from homes where there was not holiday joy or love.

The Holiday season is upon us. Christmas, Hanukah, New Years, Kwanzaa; these are times that can be extremely difficult for many foster children. During this time of Holiday Cheer, many foster children are faced with the realization that they will not be “home for the holidays,” so to speak, with their biological family members. When they wake up Christmas morning, and are surrounded by people who just may be strangers to them, strangers who are laughing and having fun, it can be a very difficult time for them, indeed. To be sure, it is a day that is a stark reminder to these children that they are not with their own family. It is during the holidays when families are supposed to be together, yet these children in care are not. They are not with their families, and they may not know when they will see them next.

Along with this, foster children also struggle with trying to remain loyal to their birth parents while enjoying the holiday season with their foster family. There are those moments when a child from foster care may feel guilty for experiencing joy and laughter with their foster family, they may feel that they are not only letting their birth mother or father down, they might even be betraying their birth parents and member of their biological family, causing even more grief, guilt, and anxiety within the child during this season of holiday joy. Indeed, this can be a very emotionally stressful time for all involved.

As one who has fostered many children, myself, during the holiday time, I have found that it is important to address these issues beforehand. Before Thanksgiving, before Christmas, before Hanukah; even before family members and friends come to visit, foster parents need to prepare their foster child ahead of time.

To begin with, foster parents can best help their foster child by spending some time and talking about the holiday. Perhaps the holiday being celebrated in their new home is one that their birth family never celebrated, or is a holiday that is unfamiliar with them. Let the foster child know how your family celebrates the holiday, what traditions your family celebrate, and include the child in it.

Ask your foster child about some of the traditions that his family had, and try to include some of them into your own home during the holiday. This will help him not only feel more comfortable in your own home during this time, but also remind him that he is important, and that his birth family is important, as well. Even if his traditions are ones that you do not celebrate in your own home, try to include some of his into your own holiday celebration, in some way and some fashion.

Far too many children have come to my own home and have never celebrated their birthday, have never sung a Christmas carol, have never opened up a present. Perhaps you have had similar experiences, as well. Sadly, this is not uncommon for children in foster care. It is important to keep in mind that many foster children may come from a home where they did not celebrate a particular season, nor have any traditions in their own home. What might be common in your own home may be completely new and even strange to your foster child. This often includes religious meanings for the holiday you celebrate. Again, take time to discuss the meaning about your beliefs to your foster child beforehand.

More than likely, your foster child will have feelings of sadness and grief, as he is separated from his own family during this time of family celebration.

After all, he is separated from his family during a time that is supposed to be centered AROUND family. However much you provide for him, however much love you give to him, you are still not his family.

Like so many children in foster care, they want to go home, to live with their family members, despite the abuse and trauma they may have suffered from them, and despite all that you can and do offer and provide for him. Therefore, this time of holiday joy is especially difficult.

You can help him by allowing him to talk about his feelings during the holidays. Ask him how he is doing, and recognize that he may not be happy, nor enjoy this special time.

Look for signs of depression, sadness, and other emotions related to these. Allow him space to privately grieve, if he needs to, and be prepared if he reverts back to some behavior difficulties he had when he first arrived into your home. You may find that he becomes upset, rebellious, or complains a lot. Along with this, he may simply act younger than he is during this time. After all, he is trying to cope with not being with his own family during this time when families get together. These feelings and these actions are normal, and should be expected. You can also help your foster child by sending some cards and/or small gifts and presents to their own parents and birth family members. A card or small gift to his family members can provide hope and healing for both child and parent, and help spread some of the holiday cheer that is supposed to be shared with all.

Each family has that crazy old Aunt Ethel, loud and obnoxious Uncle Fred, and the ever hard of hearing and over whelming Grandma Lucy.

Your family is used to these relatives and their personalities, your child in foster care is not.

If you have family members visit your home, prepare your foster child for this beforehand. Let him know that the normal routine in your home may become a little “crazy” during this time, that it may become loud, and describe some of the “characters” from your own family that may be coming over to visit. Remind him of the importance of using good behavior and manners throughout this period. Along with this, remind your own family members that your foster child is a member of your family, and should be treated as such.

Remind them that he is to be treated as a member of the family, and not to judge him or his biological family members, or fire questions at him. This also includes gift giving. If your own children should be receiving gifts from some of your family members, your foster child should, as well. Otherwise, your foster child is going to feel left out, and his sadness and grief will only increase.

Be prepared, though, for some in your family not to have presents and gifts for him. Have some extra ones already wrapped, and hidden away somewhere, ready to be brought out, just in case.

With a little preparation beforehand from you, this season of joy can be a wonderful time for your foster child, one that may last in his memory for a life time, as well as in your memory, too. After all, the gift of love is one that can be shared, not only during the holidays, but all year long.

Reprinted with permission from Dr. John DeGarmo and for more information about Dr. DeGarmo please visit his website at



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